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Reference Materials

"I identified journaling combined with weekly sessions with my leadership empathy buddy as my primary strategies between retreats. This met needs for more connection with myself than I could have imagined. "

- Rodger Sorrow, LP02
Certified Trainer - Center for Nonviolent Communication, Santa Barbara, CA

Each participant will receive a binder full of materials for your learning. Some of the materials we include in the binder are:

• Key assumptions and intentions of NVC – our own understanding of the spiritual and practical foundations of NVC
• Consciousness and Skills for NVC leadership – a list of all the skills and topics we will cover in the course of the year and beyond. See the section below for the list of headings.
• Dozens of journals for learning and integration of NVC skills and consciousness during retreats, at home, and in teleclasses
• Extensive articles on various topics such as empathy, mediation, and others

Here is the topic index of the journals and reference materials that were included in this year's binder.

Consciousness

• Reference: Approaches to NVC
• Journals: Consciousness Shift
• Journals: Daily Gratitude
• Journals: Daily Mourning and Learning
• Journals: Daily Practice
• Journals: Deepening Needs Consciousness
• Reference: Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
• Reference: Keys to the Basics of NVC
• Journals: Taking Responsibility for Our Actions
• Journals: Tracking Growth
• Journals: Transforming Enemy Images
• Journals: Transforming Judgments of Others
• Journals: Translating Right/Wrong Thinking

Empathy

• Reference: Basic Concepts of The Empathy Process
  • Balancing Brevity and Connection
  • Connecting with Strategies and “Stories”
  • Content vs. Quality of Connection
  • Empathy vs. Sympathy and Identification
  • Empathic Sensing vs. Intellectual Guessing
  • Following vs. Leading
  • Guessing vs. Knowing – Letting Go
  • Question vs. Statement Phrasing
  • Staying with the Present vs. Analyzing
• Reference: Empathy Groups
• Reference: Empathy Group Leaders’ Tips
• Reference: Empathy In Conflict
  • Concern About Seeming to Agree
  • Enemy Images
  • Letting Ourselves Be Moved
  • Needing Authenticity
  • Needing Empathy Ourselves
  • Trauma Response to Conflict
  • Unwillingness to Consider the Person’s Strategies
• Reference: Empathy In Daily Life
  • Choice vs. Demand
  • Facing Judgments and the Needs Behind Them
  • Intensifying Emotions
  • Needing Acceptance
  • Option vs. Habit
  • Reacting to the Story
  • Receiving Empathy Skills
  • Silence in Response to Empathy
  • Words vs. Heart
• Reference: Empathy for Support and Healing
  • Connecting with Needs
  • Empathic Expression
  • Fine-Tuning Depth
  • Matching Energy
  • Pacing and Silence
  • Self-Expression During Empathy
  • Sustained Empathy
  • Transitioning Out of Empathic Focus on One Person
  • Working with "Repetitive" Statements
• Reference: Tips on Empathy Coaching
• Journals: Translating into NVC - Empathy
• Reference: Understanding Empathy
  • Giving and Receiving
  • Naturalizing the Language of Empathy
  • Non-Verbal Empathy
  • Repeating, Understanding, Translating into Feelings and Needs, and Empathy
  • The Purposes of Empathy
  • The Verbal Form of Empathy in NVC
  • What is Empathy? Being vs. Doing

Expression

• Reference: Colloquial Giraffe Options
• Journals: Expressing Anger
• Journals: Expression for Connection
• Reference: Colloquial Expression of Needs
• Journals: Translating into NVC – Expression
• see also: REQUESTS

Group Participation Skills

• Journals: Group Participation Skills
• Journals: If I Were Leading This Group
• Journals: Interrupting Skills
• Journals: Making Requests in a Group

Interdependence

• Journals: Holding Everyone’s Needs
• Journals: Making, Keeping, and Breaking Agreements with Care: Practice
• Reference: Making, Keeping, and Breaking Agreements with Care: Reference

Internal Skills

• Journals: Appreciating Ourselves in NVC
• Journals: Consciousness Shift
• Journals: Daily Gratitude
• Journals: Daily Mourning and Learning
• Journals: Daily Practice
• Journals: Deepening Needs Consciousness
• Reference: Empathy in Daily Life - Needing Acceptance
• Journals: Facing “Demands”
• Journals: Instructions for Life Labs
• Journals: Learning from “Mistakes”
• Reference: Journaling - NVC Learning Journal
• Journals: Joy and Pain Journal
• Journals: Moment of Choice Awakening
• Journals: Moment of Choice Journal
• Reference: Moment of Choice Keys
• Reference: Mourning, Healing & Reconciliation – Keys
• Journals: Shifting Focus When Connecting with Needs
• Reference: Strategies for Responding to Challenging Messages
• Journals: Taking Responsibility for Our Actions
• Journals: Tracking Growth
• Journals: Transforming Enemy Images
• Journals: Translating Right/Wrong Thinking
• Journals: Working with Feedback
• Journals: Working with “No” to Deepen Self-Connection
• Journals: Working with Our “Limitations”
• Journals: Working with Our Mixed “Yes”

Interpersonal Skills

• Journals: Authenticity and Vulnerability
• see also EMPATHY
  • Empathy in Conflict
  • Empathy in Daily Life
• Journals: Expressing Anger
• Journals: Expression for Connection
• Journals: Facing “Demands”
• Journals: From Reaction to Conscious Response
• Journals: Gratitude and Appreciation in NVC
• See also GROUP PARTICIPATION SKILLS
• Journals: Hearing “NO”
• Journals: Interrupting Skills
• Reference: Mourning, Healing & Reconciliation – Keys
• Journals: Receiving Anger and Intensity
• See also REQUESTS
• Journals: Saying “NO” in NVC
• Reference: Strategies for Responding to Challenging Messages
• Journals: The NVC Tree of Life
• Journals: Transforming Enemy Images
• Journals: Transforming Judgments of Others
• Journals: Triggering Statements
• Journals: Use of Force
• Journals: Working with Other’s Mixed “Yes”
• Journals: Working with Our Mixed “Yes”

Leadership Skills

• Journals: Appreciating Ourselves in NVC
• Journals: CNVC Guidelines for Sharing NVC
• Reference: Consciousness and Skills for NVC Leadership
  • Theoretical Understanding
  • Relationship with Self
    • Self Connection and Self Acceptance
    • Choice
  • Relationships with Others
    • Showing up
    • Fostering Connection
    • Living NVC with Others
  • Group Participation (as member and as leader)
  • Leadership
    • Living NVC While Teaching
    • Responding to Specific Challenges While Teaching
    • NVC Teaching Skills
    • Mediation
  • Skills for Living as an NVC Trainer
• Journals: Despair about NVC Journal
• Journals: Exploring “Unsafety”
• Reference: NVC and Money
• Journals: NVC and Other Modalities
• Journals: NVC Communities
• Journals: Self-Care and Support
• Journals: Self-Connection About and While Leading Journal
• Journals: Tracking Growth
• Reference: Types of NVC Leadership Grid
• Journals: Working with Feedback
• Journals: Working with “Safety”

LP08 Program Components

• Reference: Empathy Groups
• Reference: Empathy Group Leaders’ Tips
• Journals: Instructions for Life Labs
• Journals: About Journaling
• Reference: Journaling
• Reference: NVC and Money
• Journals: Personal Focus for the Retreat
• Journals: Self-Assessment and Year-Long Plan

Mediation

• Reference: Approaches to Conflict Resolution
• Reference: Coaching Tips on Mediation
• Reference: Mediation Protocol (for people new to NVC)
• Reference: NVC Mediation: Principles

Mourning, Healing and Reconciliation

• Journals: Mourning and Self-Compassion – Written Exercise
• Reference: Mourning, Healing & Reconciliation – Keys

Parenting

• Journals: Daily Mourning and Learning
• Reference: Needs as Authentic Limits
• Journals: Power Over, Power With
• Reference: What is NVC Parenting

Power, Resources and Choice

• Journals: Facing “Demands”
• Journals: Moment of Choice Awakening
• Journals: Moment of Choice Journal
• Reference: Moment of Choice Keys
• Reference: Needs as Authentic Limits
• Journals: Power Over, Power With
• Journals: Personal Power Self-Reflection
• Journals: Use of Force
• Reference: What is NVC Parenting

Requests

• Journals: Enriching Life with Requests
• Journals: Linking Connection Requests to Needs
• Journals: Making Requests
• Journals: Making Requests in a Group
• Journals: Requests: Identifying Positive Action Language
• Journals: Requests Including Both People’s Needs
• Journals: Requests of Self and Others
• Journals: Requests that Connect to Needs / Connecting Requests to Needs
• Reference: Sample Connection Requests
• Journals: The Heart of Requests – Needs
• Journals: What Makes Requests Doable?

Self-Empathy

• Almost all of the journals listed in other sections offer opportunities for deep self-empathy about a wide range of topics and experiences.

Social Change

• Journals: Challenges around Diversity
• Journals: Despair about NVC Journal
• Journals: Exploring “Unsafety”
• Journals: Loss of Innocence
• Journals: Needs Met/Unmet in System
• Reference: NVC and Money
• Reference: NVC for Social Change: Core Strategies
• Journals: Personal Power Self-Reflection
• Reference: Power, Resources, and Choice
• Reference: Social Structures
• Journals: Use of Force
• Reference: What is NVC Parenting

Spirituality

• Reference: Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
• Journals: NVC and Other Modalities
• Journals: NVC and Spirituality

Teaching

• Journals: Clarity in giving instructions
• Reference: Feedback Giving
• Reference: Empathy Groups
• Reference: Empathy Group Leaders’ Tips
• Journals: Leading Challenging Groups
• Journals: Planning an Intro to NVC
• Journals: Preparing for a Role Play
• Reference: Responding to Challenging Questions When Teaching NVC
• Journals: Role-plays Reflection
• Journals: Self-Connection About and While Leading
• Reference: Tips for Working with Self-judgments About Teaching
• Reference: Tips on Empathy Coaching
• Reference: Transparent Facilitation: Principles and Guidelines
• Journals: The NVC Tree of Life
• Journals: Types of Role Plays / “Role Beings” – Chart
• Journals: Types of Role Plays / “Role Beings” – Summary
• Journals: Using Power When Teaching NVC
• Reference: Using Stories When Teaching NVC
• Journals: What Are You Afraid People Will Say…?
• Journals: What’s Alive vs. What’s Planned
• Journals: Working with “Dead” Groups

Theoretical Understanding
Most of our reference materials in other sections contribute to deepening participants' theoretical understanding.

• Reference: Approaches to Conflict Resolution
• Reference: Approaches to NVC
• Reference: Basics of Nonviolent Communication
• Reference: Colloquial Expression of Needs
• Reference: Conventional Patterns of Communication
• Reference: Feelings/Emotions – Partial List
• Reference: Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
• Reference: Keys to the Basics of NVC
• Reference: Needs as Authentic Limits
• Reference: Non-Empathic Responses
• Reference: Nonviolent Communication Quick Reference Guide
• Reference: NVC and Money
• Reference: NVC Key Differentiations
• Journals: NVC Key Differentiations
• Reference: Sample Connection Requests
• Reference: Social Structures
• Journals: The NVC Tree of Life
• Reference: Understanding Empathy
• Reference: Unique Features of NVC as a Feedback-Giving Tool
• Reference: Universal Human Needs – Partial List
• Reference: What is NVC Parenting